I’ve been thinking about something a lot lately and wanted to take a moment to share.
It’s about the personal story we tell ourselves.
We all have a choice – we can either tell ourselves a story in which we are the victim of our circumstances, of other people, of life, or of ourselves..
I had a difficult childhood, nobody loved me, we were poor, I had an abusive relationship, I never have enough money, I always mess up my relationships. I’m messed up.
Whatever it is – that story in which we are the victim, we’re miserable, and there’s nothing we can do about it. Period.
Or, we can tell ourselves a story in which we are the hero. Our own hero. The hero who has overcome some of the most difficult circumstances and become stronger for it.
Everyone has challenges. Everyone has had a difficult childhood, a bad relationship, financial struggles, or something that wasn’t ideal. Even the most “perfect” life has it’s own very intense challenges.
The story we tell ourselves about our life, our relationships, our finances, our health, our childhood – this becomes our reality. It already IS your reality in your head and on an emotional level.
Most people don’t know that these emotional states then affect our physical body, our health, every cell in our body, our decisions and ultimately, our life.
How many superhero stories have you seen in which the main character has it super easy and really doesn’t have to do anything spectacularly difficult? None! That’s because in order to become the hero, he or she has to do something that no one else will do. They have to face challenges that are often of life or death importance, contain a deep moral dilemma, or in which they personally lack the experience, skills or character to overcome it.
They become a hero and we love them because they do the hard thing. They reach down into themselves and find whatever seed of decisiveness or courage or perseverance that they need, they find someone who can help them, they make the decision in spite of their self doubt, and they do the hard thing. They often fail more than once, but they get up again and keep going and that’s when we fall in love with them.
Now I challenge you – if there is any area of your life that isn’t optimal, whether it’s your health, your relationship, your finances, your anything – you’re probably telling yourself a story about that situation that is not empowering for you.
I invite you to write out your story about it, read it, and if you’re not the freaking hero of your story, re-write your story! Write it again where you still have all these difficult circumstances, or limitations, or lack of resources or whatever, there’s no point in sugar coating it or painting it as something that it isn’t, but where where you’ve faced and overcome these challenges despite all the obstacles in your way.
BE THE HERO OF YOUR OWN LIFE STORY.
What this does is it tells your body – every cell in your body – “We are going on a different path today”. Your unconscious mind will obey you – your cells will obey you – and they will start to move you in the direction of that story, even if it’s just a tiny, tiny bit, and even if you don’t see “results” right away.
They’ll start to find solutions, resources and opportunities you couldn’t see or find or accept as yours because you were simply too busy telling yourself the limiting victim story.
Tell yourself this story every single day, multiple times a day, especially when you feel down, or indecisive, or weak or frustrated. Repeat it over and over and over and over and over again so that your unconscious gets the message, and so that every cell in your body gets the message.
Then, give it time – just like seeds, it needs time to sprout, grow, and blossom. Keep repeating the story to yourself and you WILL see changes. Celebrate those changes for they are the fruit of your labor.
One of the most powerful ways to change your life is by changing your story. Why not make yourself the hero?